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Reblogged from nekomarie
[TW: sexual assault] Check out the incredibly important conversation happening on Suey Park’s timeline about the “victim” vs. “survivor” binary in sexual assault rhetoric.
this is great. i saw someone arguing w/ another telling them to not identify as a victim & it was too triggering to engage in at the time. But it seems our society really hates victims, always saying you want to be a victim and you’re making yourself into a victim. But with sexual assault and rape especially, some of us want to be able to say Yes, we are Victims. this was a crime, an assault, an attack and we were victimized. being a survivor is great but even without the label we are surviving that shit everyday after. let people claim their own terms and places within their healing and naming how they want. i should thank Suey on twitter too.
It’s as if there’s a shame in calling yourself a victim. The act of abuse is shameful, many people feel the shame of sexual assault and abuse for years after, when we call ourselves victims we are calling out our attackers and validating our experiences. We are victims. That did happen to us. There is no shame in being a victim. If you find empowerment in being a survivor rather than a victim, go forth and do so. But don’t lump the shame you’ve shed onto the rest of us.
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